Matthew Perryinsists he’s no longer afraid of love.

TheFriendsstar, 53, is opening up about all his past relationships in a new memoir,Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing, which details his journey in life and hisstruggles with addiction.

“That was me afraid,” he says of being the one to end almost all of his romances — including an engagement — in PEOPLE’s cover story this week. “That is what I manifest, something that’s wrong with them. And then I break up with them.”

He continues, “But there can’t be something wrong with everyone. I’m the common denominator. I left first because I thought they were going to annihilate me.”

Brian Bowen Smith

Matthew Perry 10/31 Rollout

For more on PEOPLE’s cover story with Matthew Perry, listen below to our daily podcast PEOPLE Every Day.

Any deal breakers? “People who I start to think are in it for the money. And it happens more often than you think. Somebody who has their own wealth is a pretty key component for me.”

Matthew Perry 10/31 Rollout

Now confident in his sobriety, Perry looks forward to the future and the idea of being married and having kids.

Matthew Perry book cover

As a dad, “I think I’d be great. I really do,” he adds. “I grew up with a lot of little kids around me, and that’s probably why, but I can’t wait.”

For more on Matthew Perry, pick up the latest issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands everywhere Friday.

Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing, hits bookshelves on Nov. 1.

If you or someone you know is struggling with substance abuse, please contact the SAMHSA helpline at 1-800-662-HELP.

source: people.com